Saturday, February 21, 2009

Remembering Bethany

It was four years ago today that Bethany lost her battle to CHD (congenital heart defects). She was diagnosed in utero and her father, Dan English, went online to find information and support. That's how I came to know them.. (Dan, Jo & kids)... there's no way we'd meet in person since Dan & co live in the UK. At any rate, we became good friends even when Bethany was called "Bump". After many ups and downs she went home and flourished. She was like my Jessica... she would get "blue" and have to sit down after a short walk and her smiling lips would turn purple. She truly was an angel here on earth. She earned the nickname "Little Moo". hehe

Sadly, she earned her wings after multiple complications following a very complicated heart surgery. I knew things were turning for the worse and several of my online friends and I were chatting about it. I called the hospital in England and spoke to Dan himself. He knew at that time that she was gone... but her body remained there... barely. My heart broke when he said, "no parent should ever have to bury a child". I don't know if he remembers saying that but it's true. No parent should ever have to bury a child... and yet my sister did it just 4 months ago... and I know eventually I will have to. It's hard...

But what if I had never "met Bethany? Her life truly enriched mine. I remember many of her antics... she wore her mum's undies on her head and danced around, tried drinking from the dog's bowl, climbed on her older brother, Jaysen all the time and of course had her daddy's and mum's heart strings tied around her finger. She went through so much in her little lifetime and would always bounce back. She truly reminded me of Jessica. Only the last time she couldn't bounce back. She had other things to do. She is greatly missed but she still touches many hearts around the world.

Bethy, you are loved and I know that some day I'll get to meet you in person. Until then, dance all you want - you won't get blue!

5 comments:

Awesome Mom said...

I was devastated when she died, it was right about the time Evan had his stroke so it was a hard time for a lot of people. I still think about her.

Em's way said...

Like you, can never forget that day, hugs to all our extended CHD family xxxx

Becky Heard said...

Beautiful girl. Nice blog. :-)

Karen said...

What a beautiful girl. I remember you telling me about Dan and about Bethany. My heart goes out to her family. So sweet of you to remember her like this, I am sure her family appreciates it.

It's me! said...

Sweet little Bethany! I also remember when she passed. That was such a hard time, my heart just broke for Dan, Jo and Jaysen. I agree with Dan, no parent should ever have to bury a child, sometimes life is just so very very hard. Thank goodness we are blessed with wonderful memories to help us get through..........