The most amazing thing to me is how she keeps trying to be happy. She tries to keep herself busy to keep her mind off her pain. She amazes me. We talk a lot about death, what it is like, what her cousin, Marcus is doing... she dreams of Marcus every night and they go to Disneyland together. In the last few weeks she has told me that before going to Disney they sit on Marcus's bed and talk. Then they go and check on his parents and his brothers. Once they know everyone in Marcus's family is ok, they leave to go to Disneyland. Jessica told me the other day that when she is in heaven she will check on me every night before going to Disneyland with Marcus. I give her a hug to give to Marcus every night and every day she gives me a hug from him. She is no longer terrified of dying like she was 5 years ago when she had the lung bleeds. Of course I dare the bravest person to NOT be panicky when they are coughing up blood - choking and trying to catch their breath but can't. It is a horrible experience. So we are extremely grateful that she no longer deals with that. We are amazed that she stopped having lung bleeds. (Kudos to Hospice for helping us start the morphine therapy!) Jess has come a long way since then - we all have.
"An... essential way to receive God's help is through prayer. We are commanded to pray to God, our Father, in the name of Jesus Christ. The admonition is, "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened." ( Matthew 7:7-8) Heavenly Father answers all sincere prayers.
As the Lord's prophet, President Monson counsels: "At times there appears to be no light at the tunnel's end-no dawn to break the night's darkness. . We feel abandoned, heartbroken, alone. If you find yourself in such a situation, I plead with you to turn to our Heavenly Father in faith. He will lift you and guide you. He will not always take your afflictions from you, but He will comfort and lead you with love through whatever storm you face."
About a week later Jessica was able to breathe on her own and came off the ventilator. She was blind and paralyzed from the stroke. She was so weak and couldn't take comfort in my holding her. After a difficult day at the hospital I took to my knees at home and prayed to the Lord to help her be comforted. I told Him that it wasn't fair for her to have to suffer through this alone. I have taken care of her through many illnesses, surgeries, therapy, procedures and through all this Jessica at least took comfort in my holding her. That day Jess was extremely agitated and seemed to be afraid of everything. Her vision seemed to be improving a tiny bit but only enough to scare her. I could only imagine this beautiful little girl who was attached to all the wires and tubes being held by someone who sounded like Mom, felt like Mom, smelled like Mom but looked like a monster! She even seemed to be afraid of her own hand and she practically threw herself off of the bed trying to get away from it. So with all my heart to told the Lord that no matter what, I would care for this precious child. I've taken care of her through it all and I'll take care of her blind for however long she is here... just please - help her to be comforted, I prayed. A wave of warmth and calmness engulfed my body and I ended my prayer in tears. I meditated for a few minutes and then called the hospital. The nurse told me that Jessica seemed to have calmed down in the last 10 minutes or so. I had called my sister before I had prayed and she came over and sat and talked with me. I had wrenched my back trying to hold Jess and comfort her for 8 hours that day and the nurse insisted that I stay home and get some rest. Karl was new at his job and had already used any sick time he had so he was working and then had to come home and sleep. He wouldn't be able to visit Jessica at the hospital until after work the next day. So I went went to bed after calling the hospital again and they said she had not only been calm but had even eaten something! I woke up in the middle of the night and called the hospital again. They said that she was doing so well they were considering moving her out of the ICU in the morning! Several of the tubes and wires had come out since my last phone call! The next morning she was in the process of being moved out of the ICU. She was in a double occupancy room and in the 2nd "bed" (crib). I didn't say anything as I walked into her room. She immediately turned her head and cried out, "Momma!" SHE COULD SEE ME! I ran across the room, picked her up and hugged her as we both cried. I stayed the whole day with her. She was still quite sick but she could see and was comforted by me being with her! When Karl arrived at the hospital she could recognize her Daddy, too. She still had a lot of problems with her vision but it was slowly returning. When she went home - 3 weeks post surgery - she still was mostly paralyzed on her left side, her vision was still iffy, her speech was no where near it used to be and she couldn't sit or crawl - much less walk. We had a LOT of therapy and pain to go through still but she did regain most of what was lost.
I have seen miracles and sometimes wonder why I am so privileged to have seen these in my own life and in my child's life. I know that sometimes the miracle isn't in the healing - but in the relief of the pain - the return to our loving Father above.
I am trying to read more uplifting literature and help myself and my family to more readily deal with the trials in our lives. I know God doesn't hate us... He loves us and wants to help us through our trials. We are here to learn and draw near unto Him. I want to feel the comfort of the Lord and help Jessica through her difficult times as well. (who just got up out of bed yet again at 5:20am)